I know the smell you're talking about and I don't think this is what you're looking for. I would be more than glad to send you a cotton ball soaked in the oil for you to smell. This is a dupe of the L'Occitane Men's EDT fragrance. I love and wear the scent all the time.
My husband wants that same "church incense" smell you're talking about. I think a mix of frankincense, myrrh and some type of softening scent like benzoin, vanilla, mild floral or amber would be a good start.
Good luck!