It the wick drills a hole in the wax it means it's too big. It's burning too fast and burning all the wax leaving no melt pool, and it becomes a torch. A small wick does the opposite, it melts wax without being capable of burning it, so the melt pool becomes wider and wider until it reaches the edge and can make your pillar buldge or drip. And it will likely drown. The right wick is a balance on melting and consuming the wax. Wax with no oil in it requires a smaller wick than one that's fragranced. I suggest you to do a search on here about waxes, on the internet about their properties and how oil content affects the results. Take a deep breath, start over again like today was your day one.