ugh, ok THIRD attempt and I can NOT get this right. I heat my water and then put aside. Heat my oils,butter,stearic and ewax and then mix into the water once it is all melted. then I have been randomly stirring it with a spoon to mix it up. It is just getting all clumpy and like cottage cheese. Am I suppose to just mix it and leave it alone after the first time? Ahhhh,help!