NO, I have not broken the news to her yet. I am such a huge chicken. I keep rolling around in my head what she could do....I even wondered if she could remove the wick, would that make it okay? I don't know. Her daughter said she was putting stuff like ribbon, flowers, and beads on them. She also mentioned someting about stick pins if I remember right. (I pictured in my head those pins with little pearls or something at the end, which she would have to stick into the candle, causing even more problems) And no, she can't stand, she is confined to her wheel chair, so what she can do is limited. But I know there are tons of other things, I'm thinking she picked this because it was small and easy. I am going to call the daughter today and tell her I've done some "checking around" and kind of ease into the conversation from there!! yikes!