ah-soy, you've been cracking me up! I feel like we all will have to surround you and chant "DO it, DO it, DO it" until you actually make some soap! When I mix my lye, I use the kitchen sink. Measure my cold water into a plastic container, put that in the sink, measure my lye into another plastic container, and slowly pour it into the water. I use a long handled spoon so I can stand away from the sink a little. I can't open windows either, it's been 100+ degrees for a couple of weeks. As long as you don't have a teeny tiney cramped kitchen, you'll be ok. You only need to stir it for about 10 seconds after adding all the lye. Then you can just leave the kitchen for a while. OK, all together now ... "DO it, DO it, DO it !! " Nan